The relationship between a sugar daddy and a sugar baby is a great option for many younger women and older men. A mutually beneficial relationship by consenting adults, this alternative arrangement can be the perfect solution for young women to pay off college debts or buy their first car and wealthy men who don’t have time to dedicate to a full time relationship. While it may raise eyebrows with some, it’s becoming more and more common in a technology driven world where thousands flock to sugar arrangement dating sites every day. If you are considering becoming a sugar baby, read on for tips on what you need to know before meeting your potential sugar daddy.
Set expectations and boundaries.
Meeting a sugar daddy for the first time can be a whole lot of fun but intimidating, too. Before you even consider meeting up with a sugar daddy, you’ll want to make sure you’re on the same page. If you found him on a sugar site, make sure his budget lines up with what you have in mind. You don’t want a sugar daddy expecting to give you a small allowance when what you really need is that car paid off. Make sure this arrangement works for both of you.
Take the time to write down a list or even draw up a contract of both your needs. Have conversations about what would be expected on both sides. If you find out early on that it won’t be a good match for you, clearly communicate that and walk away. Trying to manipulate or will a situation to be what you want it to be won’t work. The perk to these relationships is that both parties are able to bluntly ask for and state what it is they want.
If your potential sugar daddy works in myocarditis research, for example, he may work long hours and have no interest in hearing from you other than on pre-determined date nights. The reality is that he may be married, too. You’ll want to find that out ahead of time and make sure it doesn’t bother you as his sugar baby. While the relationship is transactional, emotions will also come into play.
Consider safety.
When you have a date to meet your potential sugar daddy for the first time, make sure your meeting place is in public. Tell a trusted friend where you’ll be and how long you expect to be gone. Don’t go home with him or to a hotel. First meetings should be about getting to know each other well enough to trust that you are both comfortable with the terms of the budding relationship.
Know his real name, even if it means asking for a picture of his license. While it may sound strange, a legitimate sugar daddy will be happy to provide you with information that helps you feel safe.
Set an end time to the first meeting. For example, if you plan to go out to eat, make it clear ahead of time that it’ll be just dinner, not dinner and a movie. Setting clear boundaries now will help in the long run to establish good habits and clear expectations. This will go a long way in building trust and mutual respect, too. And remember, being a sugar baby is not the same as prostitution. You do not have to sleep with your potential sugar daddy, even after the relationship begins. Have conversations about what’s expected in the physical sense and only do what’s comfortable for you.
Set budgets for money and time.
Too many sugar babies have gotten into relationships only to find out that their sugar daddy draws the line at that brand new magnetic lash liner, hair straighter, or other beauty supplies and never comes through with the big checks promised. Avoid this by setting up a payment schedule well ahead of time. Make sure he sticks to it from the beginning, straight through the relationship’s duration.
You have an end of the bargain to hold up, too. Meeting his terms, dressing right, showing up for dates on time and with a positive attitude, and being his best companion are important roles for you. For the relationship to work, it has to be give and take. Conversations about time spent, monogamy or lack of it, and more will go a long way in establishing a successful sugar relationship.